How would you handle it if your partner’s EX wants him or her back?

Relationships!

Another pain in all the wrong places, if you're not into it with the right person!

- one thing that DEMANDS helll loadsa sacrifice, emotions and time-waste! LOL, but true.
First of all, a relationship requires  great level of "understanding" to keep it going well.. and that must be mutual.. "just love" alone in a relationship is of no use, definitely that'd only be a short journey down the lane.
So, right from the smallest issues to big decisions, understanding is the key word by which things can be sorted out in a decent way!

I have this friend of mine who has been dating a guy for about 6 months now, and what's worse is her ex, who she had been in a relationship with for at least 5 years, wants her back. Result? shes confused! The new guy is pretty cool, smart, fun-loving n understanding (after all, its been hardly 6 months :D) and she does not find it fair on her part to dump him or cheat on him for her ex, nor does she wanna let go of her ex,now that he wants her back, considering the closeness n THAT long-relationship n 'understanding' that they had! so, what's next? sleepless nights!
Well, she was this super-stoopid dolt who actually discussed about her "confusion" with her boyfriend, and what did she really expect from him? Whatever she expected, like, obviously she only later realised that she had screwed it up as much as she could! :\
And in what other way did it screw up?? more to come..
She's now strained her current relationship as well! any need for all this?
Now, the boyfriend is insecure and does not want to let go of her, nor is he able to trust her.. as he really does not wish to accept reality but he does not realize on the other hand, that his insecurity n suspicion is only worsening his relationship keeping him farther from what he wants, each day. Hence, result? All the 3 people dont have what they want, nor are they gonna be happy even if they get what they "want"... Right?
Because, as for the boyfriend is concerned, he does not want anything deterring his relationship with my friend, be it because of her ex, or any other factor.. on the other hand, even if she ends up not breaking her current relationship n not get back to her ex.. he'd still not be totally happy as the fact that she even had doubts, confusion n thoughts to get back to her ex would bother him always n the insecurity remains.. which later turns into ego, defense and anger. WHEW!!
Talk about the ex-guy .. he already made a (wise) decision of breaking up n parting ways and now he wants her back, knowing or not knowing the fact that she has already moved on n is now dating someone else. Either way, it doesn't make a major difference , cos sooner or later he'll know it for sure.. n knowing it, u think he'll feel blissful?? Now, even if she goes back to him, would he be permanently happy? NO WAY! How does his mind work?

"You dumped him for me.. hence, there's always a chance in future that u dump me for someone else!" or "how were those 6 months between u guys? were u both closer than what we were?" OR, another situation is where the duo get into an argument and the guy keeps pulling in her 6-month relationship n the guy's name repeatedly screwing up everything a lil more n more n more! Hence, he is not gonna be happy if he doesnt get her back as that is what he wants right now.. nor is he gonna be permanently happy even if he gets her back as her other relationship is definitely gonna keep bothering him life-long.. human-beings afterall!

AND here comes the girl .. talk about her.. she's the one who's most confused in the world right now .. she'd wanna stay with her cute, fun-loving n caring boyfriend with whom she is YET to build a strong bond with .. or 'd she wanna get back to her ex who knew her n loved her for 5 full years? or should she even get back to her ex, considering ALL his faults, how he had hurt her or how bitter his behavior had been .. which was the main cause for their break-up? WHEW!
How complicated these people make it!!

I dont see any need for all these agony!
My point is, if you really are in a relationship.. see to it that you keep it going well and "understanding" is the only pill to it! There may be hundreds of girls/guys
behind your boyfriend/galfriend (whichever is appropriate).. but that shouldn't in any manner affect you.. you need to take tension n bother only when your partner reciprocates (actually speaking, there's no point taking tension.. if your partner really shows reciprocation .. then there's no point u still sticking to them n its an indication it is high time you get out of it..One cant really demand love or interest, right?)
So why do you really care how many guys/gals are behind your partner as long as he/she is totally behind you.. i repeat, totally! Only when you are insecure (whereby its obvious to your own self that you're not confident about your own partner or your relationship) that issues shoot up! So, either make sure that your partner is ONLY behind you (if that is what u really want from them :D).. that is.. have full confidence in yourself and your relationship.. if not.. CHUCK IT!
NO point naggging, begging, demanding, arguing n draggging.. after all these must be felt n not asked for, right?! *oh too much of analogy today!! seriously*

SO, if that villainous EX wants my partner back, i'd let her try her best as long as my partner is stable n as long as am assured of his promise! But once he gets into a dilemma himself .. ugh, no point! he's doubtful himself, which obviously implies he hasn't given his best for his relationship with me.. which may make it meaningless.. Hence, if he wants to get back to his ex.. well n good (am saved).. if not n if he wants only me.. good for us.. let him stick to me .. let his ex keep trying n we can happily ignore THE EX-character! :D Right?!

Take a chill-pill.. You'll definitely .. ultimately get what u really deserve.. no point applying force, you only end up faking it all! 

Peace.

DEFEAT IS FINAL ONLY WHEN WE STOP TRYING...

Abraham Lincoln never quit.

Born into poverty, Lincoln was faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown.

He could have quit many times – but he didn’t and because he didn’t quit, he became one of the greatest presidents in the United States history.

Here is a sketch of Lincoln’s road to the White House:

1816 His family was forced out of their home. He had to work to support them.
1818 His mother died.
1831 Failed in business.
1832 Ran for state legislature – lost.
1832 Also lost his job – wanted to go to law school but couldn’t get in.
1833 Borrowed some money from a friend to begin a business and by the end of the year he was bankrupt. He spent the next 17 years of his life paying off this debt.
1834 Ran for state legislature again – won.
1835 Was engaged to be married, sweetheart died and his heart was broken.
1836 Had a total nervous breakdown and was in bed for six months.
1838 Sought to become speaker of the state legislature – defeated.
1840 Sought to become elector – defeated.
1843 Ran for Congress – lost.
1846 Ran for Congress again – this time he won – went to Washington and did a good job.
1848 Ran for re-election to Congress – lost.
1849 Sought the job of land officer in his home state – rejected.
1854 Ran for Senate of the United States – lost.
1856 Sought the Vice-Presidential nomination at his party’s national convention – get less than 100 votes.
1858 Ran for U.S. Senate again – again he lost.
1860 Elected president of the United States.

DEFEAT IS FINAL ONLY WHEN WE STOP TRYING.

wordpress.com

Ummm, I now find wordpress.com way better than blogspot!

Tch, I should have created one there. Blogspot looks dull to my eyes!

Finally..

Well, I have now successfully completed 2 years of college. Its from the next month that I'm gonna be one among the super seniors of my colllege n 'd be bullying around with the KIDS! :D

Important Vs. Urgent..

Picking the important one is a tough call to make.

And it usually causes you a lot of pain in the short term.. 

But somewhere deep inside, you know that you are doing what you want to do - and not what you have to do. And somewhere inside, you also know that things are going to get better because of those choices. And that satisfaction makes it worth it. :)

Google

I wonder what my life would have been like, if google didn't exist!
quite, unimaginable i say!

Enlightenment

Once Buddha was in a dejected mood as he did not succeed in his Yogic practices. He knew not where to go and what to do. A village girl noticed his sorrowful face. She approached him and said to him in a polite manner: "Revered sir, may I bring some food for you ? It seems you are very hungry". Gautama looked at her and said, "What is your name, my dear sister ?". The maiden answered, "Venerable sir, my name is Sujata". Gautama said, "Sujata, I am very hungry. Can you really appease my hunger ?"

The innocent Sujata did not understand Gautama. Gautama was spiritually hungry. He was thirsting to attain supreme peace and Self-realization. He wanted spiritual food. Sujata placed some food before Gautama and entreated him to take it. Gautama smiled and said, "Beloved Sujata, I am highly pleased with your kind and benevolent nature. Can this food appease my hunger ?". Sujata replied, "Yes sir, it will appease your hunger. Kindly take it now". Gautama began to eat the food underneath the shadow of a large tree, thenceforth to be called as the great 'Bo-tree' or the tree of wisdom. Gautama sat in a meditative mood underneath the tree from early morning to sunset, with a fiery determination and an iron resolve: "Let me die. Let my body perish. Let my flesh dry up. I will not get up from this seat till I get full illumination". He plunged himself into deep meditation. At night he entered into deep Samadhi (superconscious state) underneath that sacred Bo-tree (Pipal tree or ficus religiosa). He was tempted by Maya in a variety of ways, but he stood adamant. He did not yield to Maya's allurements and temptations. He came out victorious with full illumination. He attained Nirvana (liberation). His face shone with divine splendour and effulgence. He got up from his seat and danced in divine ecstasy for seven consecutive days and nights around the sacred Bo-tree. Then he came to the normal plane of consciousness. His heart was filled with profound mercy and compassion. He wanted to share what he had with humanity. He traveled all over India and preached his doctrine and gospel. He became a saviour, deliverer and redeemer.
Buddha gave out the experiences of his Samadhi: "I thus behold my mind released from the defilement of earthly existence, released from the defilement of sensual pleasures, released from the defilement of heresy, released from the defilement of ignorance."
In the emancipated state arose the knowledge: "I am emancipated, rebirth is extinct, the religious walk is accomplished, what had to be done is done, and there is no need for the present existence. I have overcome all foes; I am all-wise; I am free from stains in every way; I have left everything and have obtained emancipation by the destruction of desire. Myself having gained knowledge, whom should I call my Master ? I have no teacher; no one is equal to me. I am the holy one in this world; I am the highest teacher. I alone am the absolute omniscient one (Sambuddho). I have gained coolness by the extinction of all passion and have obtained Nirvana. To found the kingdom of law (Dharmo) I go to the city of Varnasi. I will beat the drum of immortality in the darkness of this world".
Lord Buddha then walked on to Varnasi. He entered the 'deer-park' one evening. He gave his discourse there and preached his doctrine. He preached to all without exception, men and women, the high and the low, the ignorant and the learned - all alike. All his first disciples were laymen and two of the very first were women. The first convert was a rich young man named Yasa. The next were Yasa's father, mother and wife. Those were his lay disciples.
Buddha argued and debated with his old disciples who had deserted him when he was in the Uruvila forest. He brought them round by his powerful arguments and persuasive powers. Kondanno, an aged hermit, was converted first. The others also soon accepted the doctrine of Lord Buddha. Buddha made sixty disciples and sent them in different directions to preach his doctrine.
Buddha told his disciples not to enquire into the origin of the world, into the existence and nature of God. He said to them that such investigations were practically useless and likely to distract their minds.

In Too Deep..

A big bull frog had jumped and found
Himself no longer on the ground.
A pail of water, cold and deep,
That from its' grasp, he couldn't leap.

I saw him struggling to be free
And for his plight, I soon found pity;
I dumped the pail but feared to touch
This creature ugly, warts and such.

I'm thankful for the souls who see,
My warts and yet, they pity me,
When in the water, I too, take leap
And find myself in there too deep.

Save the Tiger

The Royal Grace :

The tiger is the spirit of the Indian jungle, the symbol of India's wilderness-one we are pledged to preserve. Their dwindling numbers have given environmentalists around the globe, enough reasons to panic. But given the enormous public support, the cause of the wild tiger is not the lost one.

Hello everybody!

Hello people, I am Kavya .. blogging from Chennai.
 I had never been much into blogging before. Stuff relating to internet, technology and knowledge etc interest me greatly. I am here to share my views, interests and know more of what is happening around everywhere.
And this is the first time I'm actively into blogging!